Hello. By the way. Whatever.

That’s the distance between my thoughts and the actions

Hello, 🫶🏽

The beauty of writing is not knowing where to start. What if I told you I mulled over my introduction about ten times, searching for the perfect hook to grab your attention?

I remember a TED talk once that started with “Have you ever wondered why sex is so good?” Randomly the talk was about user experience design. It’s funny how unexpected connections relate.

I pressed play for quite some time and I discovered new things about myself when I paused it all. Life’s patterns no longer surprise me; this time, it’s unfolding in reverse. It’s an intriguing journey, and I wonder how this chapter will unfold, what I’ll discover, and what actions I’ll take. I find it to be quite an interesting just like how I am.

This is hello, from pressing play. This is me saying “I should have sent this newsletter some weeks ago but, any day is better than no day”

By the way, 👀

If someone were to ask you who knows you best in your entire life—knowing everything about you, understanding your thoughts, and accompanying you the longest—you’d likely have an answer ready, right? It could be your partner, sibling, best friend, parent, or for some, a supreme being like God. In my last newsletter, I shared a post; the friendship problem.

At different stages of life, different individuals become our closest confidants. Who I knew intimately in my childhood differs from who I confide in now.  When one stage ends, we change and this person may no longer know us deeply like the last time. What am I trying to say? No one stays forever (terrible thought, I know) but it’s true. When I’m forty (if I’m alive) those around me may not be here again (I hope they are cause I love each of them) and it’s life. Although it’s unsettling, I’ve made peace with it.

I learned to live with it by learning to live alone. While human connection is vital for our sanity, mastering the ability to be alone fosters self-awareness and inner peace.

What does it mean to be alone?

When you’re alone there’s freedom in space. You are not a stranger to yourself.

However, it’s essential to differentiate between solitude and loneliness. Learning to live alone doesn’t equate to loneliness.

For one, when I’m alone I’m satisfied with having little people around me.

I find contentment in having a select few individuals around me when I’m alone. I’m not one for large get togethers; I prefer the intimacy of a small circle of 5-7 close companions. People come and go as life progresses, and while their departure may sting, I’ve learned to appreciate solitude while still valuing companionship.

During this stage, I thank my friends I met in the past for I learned how to be a better to the ones i’m with right now. I’m also learning how to love and cherish them. Communicate better. There are different friend groups for different purposes but i know all of them have one thing in common. They all understand adulthood isn’y gonna be easy so let’s push through together while loving one another. They all yearn for growth to be a better human and i adopted this character.

We don’t learn all this soft skills from the internet or school but from interaction with those we love. What I learn today is shaping who I am tomorrow. So while I may feel alone living through reality, I remember my humans and I are alone together.

Whatever, 🖐🏽

I’ve been wrong about many things in my life but never my intuition. Beautiful if you ask me. My confidence or unwavering faith like others call it won’t be shaken by reality even if I’m at odds. If i know and can tell the outcome of whatever it is, it will come to pass and if i try to negotiate it because i don’t like how it ends, it’lll come to pass. Why? Because i know the end from the beginning. Sometimes (But I’m not God)

My 70 million cents says in three months, I’ll press pause again and, this time i’m at a crossroad and life is about to take a new turn. I feel a bit worried but, I’ll put all my cards in and won’t fold at the table where i play with fate. Why am I sharing this with you? Because you’ll be here when it happens and I’m not so sure if those who are around me will be.

Bye,

Before I go,

Nevermind.

Breadcrumbs

I read quite interesting articles and stories since i last wrote and they shaped my mind. I do hope they shape yours too.

• I came across this newsletter today and fell in love with love again. This substack story is a letter from a dad to his infant child

• This is a MUST READ!!

• Of course, it’s another day to be hypocrites about social media. A day in my life of not documenting everything.